Monthly Archives: January 2010

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Life is like a field of newly fallen snow . . .

. . . where I choose to walk, every step will show. – Denis Waitley

We’ve had a lot of fun with the 6 inches of snow (& 1/2 inch of ice) we got Friday & Saturday!  Some of my favorite things have been staying in my pajamas practically all day, drinking lots of hot cocoa, having friends over for an impromptu dinner party last night, going for a walk in the falling snow with Brad & all of us going for a walk in our rainboots when the snow turned slushy today.  I even got cheesy and did some self-portraits since I’m never in pictures . . . hee! hee!

please pray . . .

I’ve been following Debra’s blog as she and Ernest fight {and I literally mean FIGHT} to bring their son, Ronel, home from Haiti. Please remember this family in your prayers.  Ronel was scheduled to leave Haiti when Amos and several other kids left, but he was missing some paperwork. Ernest is there right now doing everything in his power to get his son home. Ronel understandably had a really hard time when the other kids were able to leave and he couldn’t.  He thought he was finally going home and was so disappointed.  You can read about it here.  It is very sad.  I just wanted to share so more people could be praying that God would make a way for this precious boy to finally get to the U.S. and be with his family.

I’ve been meaning to share this song for a while.  I have a lot of love for the Ivey family – even though I only know them in blog land.  Aaron wrote this song, and it is beautiful.  It was written for Amos & Story, who were both adopted from Haiti.  Ronel is also in the video.  The second face you see is his, and he can also be seen drawing with chalk toward the end.

{Edited to add: for another great description of Ronel’s situation, go HERE. You can also read about UNICEF’s take on adoption, which I found very interesting.}

how to buy a child

This is heartbreaking.  But something we should NOT ignore.

Part One:

Part Two:

I wear my heart on my . . .

sleeve t-shirt.

These shirts will be available for purchase here on the blog SOON!  All proceeds will, of course, go toward our adoption.  They will also be sold at the benefit concert on February 20th. [James 1:27 will be printed on the back.] Be sure to get one or two, and SHOW LOVE!

The design was inspired by 1 John 3:18 – “Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth.”  God has stirred our hearts up for orphans to the point that it’s no longer enough for us to just love them with our words.  We’ve been called to SHOW love for them with our ACTIONS.  It is my prayer that God will not only use these shirts to help us with the finances needed to get our son home – but that it will help raise awareness of the millions of orphans all across the world and possibly lead others to act.  Just by wearing one of these, you, too, can help!  I’ll let you know when they’re here and available for purchase, so stay tuned . . . . and if you haven’t read 1 John 3 lately, I would recommend it!

***MARK YOUR CALENDAR!***

There will be a singer/songwriter benefit concert at Edgehill Studio Cafe on Saturday, February 20th to help raise funds to bring home the newest Dunlap!  If you’re in the Nashville area, we would LOVE for you to come out.  We’re finalizing all the details, so more information will follow soon.  BUT I can tell you now that it will be a super fun night with some really great talent.  Stay tuned for more details, and help spread the word!!!

Thanks for the reminder, God.

Adoption is expensive. There’s just no way around it. The cost is something that keeps many people from ever even thinking about pursing it. I mean, it’s thousands of dollars. Thousands. To be honest, once I felt God leading our family to adopt, I stopped thinking about the money. I just knew that it was what we were supposed to do, and I knew that if I thought about the money too much I would just get “chicken.” I felt very strongly that God would provide what we needed. Our friend, Scott Oatsvall (of the Oatsvall Team), says that God funds what He favors, and I took that to heart. I still know that God will provide. $25,000 – 30,000 is really not a big deal for Him. I know that in my head, but I must confess that I’ve had moments recently of worrying about how we will ever be able to afford adoption. I’ve wondered if we’re crazy to pursue it at this point in our lives – when we have less money than we’ve had in the past. BUT, God just KEEPS reassuring me in little ways that HE is in charge here, and that HE will take care of the cost.

If you haven’t noticed, I added a “donate” button on here. I was a little unsure of whether I should add it, but I did on Tuesday.  Well, on Wednesday night, Brad and I were in the office looking at our finances and making some decisions about how to contribute toward the adoption fund ourselves when I heard my computer chime that I had a new email. A person who is very near & dear to my heart had made our first online donation! And I sensed God saying, “Katie, remember that I’M in charge here, I’VE called your family to this, and I will provide.”

Then yesterday we received the sweetest card from a lady at our old church in Alabama.  There was a check inside the card and a note that read, “Katie the check is to get your new son a little something from me. Let me know when he gets home and his name. I am very happy for you all!”  I just stood there will tears streaming down my cheeks. We hardly ever see this lady, but she gets it! She gets that there is a little boy out there who is already our son. That he’s coming home. She even wants to know his name. I just cannot tell you how much that note meant to me – and of course the check. It touched my heart so much that she’s excited for us and that she would even give us money for our son. This is what is printed on the front of the card:

For You and Your Little One

A child who lives with gentleness
will touch with gentle hands.
A child who’s understood
becomes someone who understands.
A child who lives with patience
learns a way to wait for things.
A child who’s taught to smile at life
is one who laughs and sings.
When children find acceptance,
that’s another trait they learn.
And children who are loved a lot
will give love in return.

I’m here to tell you that if God is leading you to adopt, He WILL take care of the money.  If that is all that’s holding you back, step out if faith and watch Him work.  These donations that we received this week aren’t huge amounts of money.  In fact, in comparison to the thousands we need, they are really small.  But those small amounts add up, and they are hugely encouraging along the way.

Several people have asked me about the costs associated with adoption, so I’ve added a link at the top of the blog that shows how the fees are broken down.  The money is due at various stages along the way, and the total includes travel expenses.  If you ever have any questions about the adoption process, please feel free to ask us.  We’ll do our best to answer them.

** As part of our fundraising efforts, all proceeds from my photography business will go toward adoption in 2010.  If you haven’t already, check out my website and blog and help SPREAD THE WORD to your friends & family in the Nashville area! **

I hope you all have a great weekend!

a little of this, a little of that

Sunday we sang a song at church called “Marvelous Light.”  I’ve sung this song many times, but it’s never hit me quite like it did that day.  You see, I’ve never sung it as a mom whose heart is connected to an orphan in a far away place.  A little boy I don’t know yet but love dearly.  The song starts with these words: “I once was fatherless, a stranger with no hope.”  It’s not necessarily a song about orphans or adoption, but that line just grabbed my heart.  I’d never heard it that way before.  When you start the adoption process, little things jump out at you like that.  You’re keenly aware of the plight of orphans and anything that has to do with them.  As I sang that song, I couldn’t help but remember that I once was spiritually “fatherless – a stranger with no hope.”  Thankfully God pursued me and won my heart, and I now can say that I’m adopted into HIS family!

Today I volunteered in Cole’s classroom at school.  When I left I headed to the Starbucks at Nipper’s Corner (otherwise know as the NCSB by us regulars!) to get some work done.  It’s an overcast, rainy day here in Nashville, and I thought I’d be more productive there than at home.  I’m wearing THIS shirt today, and the barista asked me about it.  I told her that we are adopting from Ethiopia, and she looked at Mimi (another employee) and said, “SHE’S from Ethiopia!”  You have to understand that I go to this Starbucks all the time.  I know the employees by name, they know my drink, etc., etc.  I knew Mimi had a really fun accent and that she wasn’t originally from Nashville.  I’ve chatted with her briefly countless times over the counter, and somehow I never asked her where she was from.  And lo and behold, she’s from the exact same city where our son lives!  She was almost as excited as I was, and I was able to ask her some questions about Ethiopian language and culture.  I had just thought a few days ago that I hoped to meet someone from Ethiopia soon.  I just thought it would be neat to talk with them about some cultural things I had been studying.  And I already knew someone and didn’t even realize it!  It’s a small thing, but I’m so thankful that God provided just what I had hoped for!  That’s just like Him, isn’t it?!

I just can’t tell you how thankful I am to be in Nashville at Green Hills Church (you’ll probably get tired of hearing me say that if you follow this blog much).  We moved here to help start the church (Brad is one of the co-pastors), and I constantly find myself thanking God for the people He’s brought alongside us.  Brad preached a powerful sermon last Sunday, and I just sat in my little chair in awe of how good God has been to us.  Our small group is reading Crazy Love by Francis Chan right now.  It had been on my list for a while, and I’m glad to finally be reading it along with some of my favorite people.  If you’re a reader, I think you should add it to your list.

I didn’t take many pictures at Cole’s birthday party sleepover.  I constantly battle wanting to “capture the moment” AND/OR be “completely present” at the same time.  I opted to just be “present” at the party (plus it was dark, and I can’t stand using my flash..ugh!).  I did get these Monday morning (hence the bed-head hair and still-sleepy eyes).  That’s what happens when little boys stay up past midnight.  Brad projected the PS2 on the dining room wall, so they pretty much played video games the whole time (meaning we’ve had to spend some time detoxing this week!).

Well, that’s all I have for now.  Hopefully I’ll have more adoption news soon as we’ve submitted all the paperwork for our home study.  Thanks for reading and walking with us on this journey . . .

happy birthday cole!

This is Cole.  He’s SEVEN today.  We love him for so many reasons.  He’s celebrating tonight by having a sleepover with two of his best friends.  We had pizza as well as ice cream with whipped cream and sprinkles (Cole’s not much of a cake “fan”).  We currently have the PS2 projected on our dining room wall, and the floor is covered with bean bags and sugared-up little boys (that are starting to not look so little).  We’ll see if anyone gets any sleep tonight!  Cole is such a blessing to our family.  Here are a few of my favorite things about him:

- He’s more of a leader than a follower.  I hope he’ll always be that way and that he’ll lead well.

- You know how some people have secret handshakes?  Well, Cole made up a secret goodnight kiss that he gives me almost every night.  I love it.

- He loves learning and tries his best.  He’s determined and doesn’t give up easily – even when things get hard.

- He loves people and is usually really easy-going.

- He still calls me “mommy” every now-and-then.

- He has a big vocabulary and is very articulate when he talks.

There are many, many more things, but I’m tired and my house is really loud right now!  Happy Birthday to my favorite 1st grader!  We love you to the moon and back!

what a week

I don’t even know where to begin.  It’s been a crazy, emotional week.  The hard drive in my MacBook died Monday after I had just met with some friends for a fundraiser brainstorming meeting.  It worked, and then suddenly without warning it didn’t.  It’s crazy how much I rely on my computer, and I’ve felt so “stuck” without it.  I’ve needed to edit images from a couple of recent sessions and work on adoption & fundraising stuff.  I’ve needed my calendar (which, of course, is on my computer).  I’ve needed to (finally) finish updating my photography website, etc., etc.  The list goes on and on.  So, I’ve felt like all my little projects have been at a standstill.  Thankfully I was pretty well backed up and didn’t lose too much.  Brad ordered a new hard drive and replaced it yesterday, and I spent some time last night and this morning trying to get everything back up and running.

One thing I did during my little unplanned “vacation” is read the book that came with our agency packet.  We’ve chosen to use All God’s Children International (AGCI) as our placing agency.  We received a packet of information from them a couple of months ago, and in it was a book.  I didn’t give it much thought and figured I’d eventually get around to reading it one day.  Well, life has a way of getting busy, and I never picked it up.  Wednesday I decided to start reading it, and by Thursday afternoon, I had finished.  It is an amazing book, and I would recommend it to everyone who’s considering adoption.  It’s by Jan Beazely (co-founder of AGCI), and it’s called The Strength of Mercy.  As frustrating as my computer woes have been this week, I’m so thankful for the “down” time to read it.

I’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster this week.  I’m typically not too “weepy,” but I’ve cried so many tears in the past few days.  I find myself longing for our little boy a lot and sad that we’re missing out on this part of his life.  When I see a boy that looks to be 2 or 3 years old, it makes me sad.  I start wondering what our son looks like, who’s taking care of him, and if he feels lonely or afraid.  I sat and watched the news coverage on Haiti, and tears just rolled down my cheeks continuously.  I felt sad, and I felt so frustrated that adoption is so expensive and that the process is so long and hard.  I feel like those things keep people from adopting, and there is SUCH a HUGE need.  I saw those precious faces, and I just longed for their lives to be different – to be whole.  I’ve watched news coverage about disasters like that before, but I’ve never grieved the way I have this week.  I’ve never wanted to jump on a plane so badly and go do something to help.  With all my “problems” this week, I’ve realized once again that suffering is SO relative.  My troubles are absolutely NOTHING compared to what the people in Haiti have experienced this week.

I have some good news on the adoption front.  We finished all our paperwork for our home study!!!  That means I’ve made copies of our birth certificates, marriage certificate, water bill, and tax returns.  It means that I’ve gathered statements from our bank and Brad’s employer stating that we’re financially “stable.”  It means that we’ve all had physicals done and gotten our medical forms completed (including TB tests for Brad and me).  It means that four letters of recommendation have been sent and criminal checks have been run and a BUNCH of other forms have been completed and signed.  It even means that our cat is up-to-date on his vaccinations (ha!).  So, everything will be submitted to our case worker on Monday, and we’ll be able to start our home visits.  I can’t tell you how relieved I am to have that part done.  I’m starting to understand now why people say that adoption isn’t for the faint of heart!  It’s been a physically and emotionally taxing week.  I know it will be worth it, though, and I’m taking it one day at a time.

I don’t have Photoshop up and running again yet, so these are SOOC (straight-out-of-camera) and uploaded some weird way I don’t usually use.  Anyway, I thought you might like to see what a hard drive actually looks like.  Maybe you already knew, but I had no idea.  Also, this is my hot hubby/computer-fixer.  [Yes, I realize it looks as if he's got a small animal on his chin.  Call me crazy, but I actually really like it!]

Check back later in the week for birthday pictures.  Cole is turning SEVEN tomorrow (ack!!!!), and he’s having a birthday party sleepover (at his request) with a couple of friends tomorrow night.  Should be lots of fun . . . for the kids anyway!

. . . uh, oh . . .

Hello, folks.  I have some sad news.  It won’t be sad for you, but it’s sad for me.  My MacBook has apparently died, and I’m kind of in mourning.  If I’m MIA for a few days, you’ll know why.  Should you need to reach me in the meantime, just give me a good, old-fashioned phone call until I get everything up and running again.  Thanks!